The Perfect Marriage -

The healthiest married people I know have their own friends, their own hobbies, and their own alone time. They miss each other. They have new things to talk about at dinner. They choose each other every day—not because they have no other options, but because they actively want to. This sounds cynical, but hear me out.

It’s choosing the same person over and over—even on the days when they annoy you, even on the days when you feel distant, even on the days when “love” feels more like a verb than a feeling. the perfect marriage

I thought if my marriage was “right,” we wouldn’t fight. I thought we’d always want the same things at the same time. I thought love alone would smooth over every crack before it became a canyon. The healthiest married people I know have their

Marriage is two imperfect people refusing to give up on each other. Humor is the lubricant that keeps the engine from seizing up. So here’s my revised definition: They choose each other every day—not because they