Single On Purpose May 2026

Coined by John Kim in his book Single On Purpose , the concept challenges the cultural narrative that singledom is a waiting room for relationships. Instead, it reframes being single as a critical, powerful phase for self-discovery, healing, and growth.

You cannot build a healthy relationship from a place of lack. You must first become someone you’d want to date. Why "Single On Purpose"? The Benefits | If you’re single by default (waiting) | If you’re single on purpose (choosing) | | --- | --- | | Feel lonely or incomplete | Feel whole and self-sufficient | | Date out of fear or boredom | Date only when aligned and curious | | Rush to define relationships | Let connections unfold naturally | | Seek external validation | Generate internal validation | | Repeat toxic patterns | Break cycles through self-work | Single On Purpose

Want a printable workbook or guided journal prompts based on this guide? Just ask. Coined by John Kim in his book Single

What is "Single On Purpose"? "Single On Purpose" is not just about being unmarried or unattached. It is a deliberate, proactive choice to stop looking for a partner to "complete" you and instead focus on building a whole, fulfilled self. You must first become someone you’d want to date