A Good Marriage Page

A good marriage is not the firework. It is the long, low-burning ember that warms the house on a winter night when the power has gone out.

It is not fifty-fifty. Some days, it is ninety-ten. Some years, it is a seesaw with a broken spring. But the contract is this: I will be the witness to your life. I will watch your hair thin and your hands roughen. I will hear you tell the same story for the fortieth time at a dinner party, and I will not correct you. I will look across the table and see the ghost of the person you were at twenty-two, and I will love that ghost, but I will also love the crease beside your mouth. A Good Marriage

The world mistakes passion for heat. But passion is a fever; it breaks. A good marriage is a constitution. It is the agreement that when one of you forgets who they are—lost in grief, in anxiety, in the cruel trick of aging—the other will remember. They will hold the memory of you like a library holds a rare book. A good marriage is not the firework